It’s Short and It’s About Perspective

by tinareale on November 13, 2012

You could call Pink’s new song my theme song of the day yesterday. It was a you-know-what day.

One of those days with a ton of annoyances that just put me in a mood.

I couldn’t go to Trader Joes for groceries and ended up standing in line for TWENTY-TWO minutes at the local grocery store because they had only one lane open. Then, the woman in front of me got out of line while her stuff was being scanned to disappear for almost 5 minutes while she went back for like 10 other items she forgot.

The long lines made me late to the fall conference with Makenzie’s teacher to discuss how she’s doing so far this year. Being late to anything at her school always makes me feel judged as that “poor young mom who doesn’t have it all together because she’s a young mom”. Probably in my head, but it’s how I feel all.the.time. and even more so when I arrive late or forget to do something or send something in, etc.

The late conference in turn made it impossible to make it to the yoga class I planned on visiting and was looking forward to all morning. When I miss a planned workout, it’s not too pretty. I try to go with the flow, but there are times it can take a negativity nose dive in my day. Yesterday was one of those days. Missing that stress release left me all bound up and my anxiety got the best of me. I got in a mood and there was a LOT of negative self-talk the remaining hours of the day and afternoon.

The kids didn’t nap. I didn’t get anything I needed to get done completed. The kids fed off of my mood and were pushing my buttons left and right while also aiming to get on each others’ nerves and pick fights. I emotionally ate a bowl of ice cream (it isn’t eating ice cream that upsets me, it’s the mentality and drive behind it that does). A sudden huge migraine hit me just before having to drive in the rain to take Makenzie to gymnastics.When I got home from Makenzie’s gymnastics and let our dog, Roxy, in from outside she took off out the garage door. I couldn’t catch her.

I got annoyed to have to go chase after her with 2 kids in the rain. Then I decided Peter was on his way home and Roxy usually runs around the corner to my brother-and-sister-in-law’s place where she plays with their dog. So, I didn’t grab the kids to go after her.

Peter couldn’t find her when he went looking.

An hour later we got a call from a woman who found her on the side of the road.

She had been hit. The insane amounts of guilt immediately enveloped me like a dark cloak. Someone had hit her and left her, but the guilt still fell on my heart.

Turns out the accident had broken my poor Roxy’s back and caused a significant amount of internal damage. We had no choice but to put her down.

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My dog died last night.

And it all made the ridiculous complaints and frustrations of my day seem…well, ridiculous.

Life is short. And it is a blessing. Sometimes we lose that perspective. I certainly do my best to keep my blessings at the forefront of my mind and constantly thank God for all He has done in my life. But I have my days too. Days where I lose perspective and can’t seem to climb out of a needless funk.

It disheartens me that not long ago my heart was breaking over those who lost so much in Hurricane Sandy and counting my blessings in the after of that devastation. Then, to forget it all so easily because a few hiccups in a completely blessed day. In no way am I comparing the death of my dog to the things others faced after Sandy. I just hoped to highlight how quickly we can lose that perspective. And how pained I am that such insignificant things affected my day, when now I have a much bigger pain I can’t even wrap my head around right now.

Life is short.

We have so much to be thankful for each and every day.

Hold onto that perspective tight.

It makes the short life that much sweeter, even amidst the pain.

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In loving memory of Roxy.

Your Turn – What is the last time you had to gain a little perspective? What blessings do you have in your life today?

{ 132 comments }

1 Lauren November 13, 2012 at 8:13 am

Oh Tina, I am so so sorry. Loosing a loved pet is never easy and I will be thinking and praying for you today. My heart goes out to you dear.

2 Jackie @ MomJovi November 13, 2012 at 8:16 am

Wow, Tina. What an awful, awful day, followed by such a devastating loss. You can’t be too hard on yourself — those are the types of hiccups and irritations that drive us all mad and make us lose our patience and minds. I agree that taking time to be thankful and knowing that you’re blessed are very, very important things but it is so hard to keep that mindset in the midst of a day like that. It happens; it’s life. If we were grateful and full of joy all the time, wouldn’t it all be a bit diminished when it was really warranted?

But today? Today you mourn your poor Roxy. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. The loss of a pet is a huge blow to a family. We’re still recovering from ours, more than two years later. Thinking of you.

3 Heather November 13, 2012 at 8:16 am

OMG, Tina, I’m so so so sorry. I’m sure Roxy knew she was loved and will be looking over your family for years to come.

4 Katie @ Talk Less, Say More November 13, 2012 at 8:19 am

Oh Tina, I’m so sorry! I’m sorry for the fact that you had a bad day; I’m sorry that you had to put your dog down; I’m sorry that you just had “one of those days.” I send you love and well wishes that today is better. Give yourself some rest and time to relax – you are so strong and deserve that time for YOU!

5 Kim November 13, 2012 at 8:23 am

Oh Tina – I read your blog pretty faithfully but don’t comment often. I had to today. I have a lump in my throat. I am SO sorry. You said you felt guilt, and I completely understand that, but I hope you are/were able to let that go. Not your fault. An ex-coworker underwent a double mastectomy yesterday (everything went well, cancer has not spread). That put things in perspective. I have too many blessings to count, but on this 21 degree morning, the first one that comes to mind is that I am thankful for a warm, comfortable house. Again, I’m really sorry. Our pets are part of the family – it is a hard blow when one is lost.

6 tinareale November 14, 2012 at 7:23 am

Thank you, Kim, for commenting today. Your words meant a lot. Glad to hear that your coworker is well too and there was good news with the surgery. things like that definitely help keep things in perspective.

7 Heather (Where's the Beach) November 13, 2012 at 8:23 am

Oh sweetie….I am soooooo sorry to hear this. Hugs!

8 Erin November 13, 2012 at 8:24 am

Tina, I am so sorry fit the loss if your beloved dog. Please be kind to yourself today.

9 Victoria (District Chocoholic) November 13, 2012 at 8:25 am

I’m so sorry to hear about Roxy.

10 Tiff @ Love Sweat and Beers November 13, 2012 at 8:25 am

Oh gosh – I am SO sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the hurt. Open your heart to prayers and family, and let them help comfort you. That’s all you can do. Again, so sorry to hear this news. :(

11 Sarah November 13, 2012 at 8:26 am

Praying for you – remember it is ok to let it all out some days and use the next day as a fresh start!

12 Lee November 13, 2012 at 8:27 am

Oh Tina! I am so sorry.

13 Glenneth November 13, 2012 at 8:28 am

i am so sorry to hear about roxy. hugs to you and your family.

14 Melissa H November 13, 2012 at 8:33 am

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

15 Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table November 13, 2012 at 8:37 am

Oh, Tina… I am so so sorry. Thinking about you today. Xoxo

16 Tess @ Cross Country Cajun November 13, 2012 at 8:39 am

Tina – I am so sorry for your loss. I know Roxy will always hold a special place in your heart. Lifting you and your family up in prayer today, tomorrow, etc. – putting ya’ll on my prayer list now! xoxo

17 Madeline @ Food Fitness and Family November 13, 2012 at 8:44 am

Tina I am so so so sorry for your loss. Dogs become such an important part of our families. They are steady, constant, nd full of love. I know Roxy’s life had to have been THAT much better because she was lucky enough to have you and your kids/husband as her family. Praying for you guys today.

18 sarah November 13, 2012 at 8:44 am

oh tina, i am so sorry!

19 Courtney @ Sweet Tooth, Sweet Life November 13, 2012 at 8:49 am

Aww, Tina, I’m so sorry to hear about Roxy. Thinking of you today, my friend. Please let me know if you need anything at all. xoxo

20 Amanda November 13, 2012 at 8:50 am

I am so sorry! I seriously teared up reading about your day, I’ve been having some days with my Husband pretty MIA with his work schedule and the babies driving me nuts (teething) so I can really relate to your busy day. It really is a reminder to just slow down and take it all in. Virtual hugs to you!

21 Jillian @ sprinkle massacre November 13, 2012 at 8:50 am

So sorry to hear about what happened Tina! Stay strong and I hope that today is much better for you!

22 Sara @ Magia e Pasta November 13, 2012 at 8:53 am

Like Kim, I read your blog regularly, but I don’t usually comment. I just want to reach out and give you a big hug across the internet. I know how hard it is to put a pet down – they feel like part of your family and it is not easy. I just wanted to tell you that I think it’s okay to feel like you’re having a bad day where nothing goes right, WHILE balancing it with thankfulness. This is life, with all of its ups and downs. Sending much love to your family right now <3

23 tinareale November 14, 2012 at 7:28 am

Thank you, Sara. The part about balancing things with thankfulness even though feeling like you’re having a bad day is okay. Thanks.

24 Kathy November 13, 2012 at 8:56 am

wow..I was not expecting that outcome to your day…sorry for your loss…keep your perspective..don’t beat your self up because of this…today is a new day.

25 [email protected] November 13, 2012 at 8:57 am

I’m so so sorry about your dog. Such a tragic situation to end a life.

It is about perspective, but it’s also okay to be upset at the little things as long as we learn to also let them go quickly.

Sending love to you and your family as you deal with your loss. {{{hugs}}}

26 molly @ heart, sole & cereal November 13, 2012 at 9:01 am

tina, i’m so sorry to hear about your dog. i lost my dog this summer and i know it’s really tough. i try to always find solace in the fact that i know god doesn’t give me any challenges he hasn’t prepared me to handle. sending you positive vibes today.

27 Carly D. @ CarlyBananas November 13, 2012 at 9:02 am

I’m so sorry, Tina. My thoughts are with you and your family. <3

28 Jennifer@knackfornutrition November 13, 2012 at 9:05 am

I am so sorry, Tina. My prayers are with you today.

29 Jess November 13, 2012 at 9:06 am

Oh friend, I am so so sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is such an emotional and sad and hard time, no matter the circumstances. I wish I could give you a GIANT hug right now. Sending you love and prayers for strength, ok? xoxo

30 runblodnie26 November 13, 2012 at 9:11 am

I’m so sorry Tina. Sending up a prayer for you today.

31 Heather (Heather's Dish) November 13, 2012 at 9:11 am

oh honey, i am so SO very sorry. if/when we lose our dogs i’m going to be a complete mess, and i can’t imagine what you’re going through. praying for you guys sweetheart!

32 Haley @ The Saucy Apple November 13, 2012 at 9:13 am

Tina, I’m so sorry for your loss! I hope you find perfect peace in the Lord today.

33 Gina @ Running to the Kitchen November 13, 2012 at 9:17 am

Tina, I’m so very sorry about Roxy. You’re not alone in feeling annoyed about the little things in life and then feeling even more ridiculous (please don’t take offense to that word, it’s just the only one I can think of right now) when something truly horrible happens to put the little annoyances into perspective. It happens to me all the time no matter how hard I try. I’m so, so sorry Roxy’s life was that “thing” for you yesterday. Thoughts are with you guys.

34 tinareale November 14, 2012 at 7:44 am

No offense taken at all. I agree that it felt pretty ridiculous looking back after the way the night ended.

35 Brooke S November 13, 2012 at 9:19 am

Tina, we all have those days that the little things pile up and get the best of us, don’t beat yourself up over it. It is part of being human. I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is heartbreaking. (((Hugs))))

36 Jana @ Newly Wife Healthy Life November 13, 2012 at 9:19 am

Tina I am so so sorry about Roxy.. I literally have tears welling up in my eyes while reading this post.. I definitely have days like yours that just feel like everything is going wrong and I forget how blessed I am. As a total dog lover, I understand how much your girl meant to you. We had to put down my family dog in the spring and it was so hard. She too had been hot by a car (our car in our driveway) months before and although she healed after surgery, she was also almost 17 years old and the accident aged her very quickly. I am praying for you and your family today, and plan to hug my family and dog Tebow a little tighter today. Thank you for opening up and reminding me what is important.

37 Courtney November 13, 2012 at 9:30 am

I’m so sorry for your loss, Tina! :( It definitely is a reminder to always count your blessings and live each day to the fullest. Sending lots of prayers and positive vibes your way, girl.

38 Natalie @ FreshLifeFindings November 13, 2012 at 9:30 am

I’m so sorry to hear about Roxy, Tina! Praying you have peace and I’m so encouraged by your perspective on life, especially in the midst of sadness.

39 Sarah @ Blonde Bostonian November 13, 2012 at 9:43 am

I’m so sorry Tina about your dog Roxy! It’s true – we have to be thankful for all our blessings, they can be taken away in a second.

40 Kelly @ Cupcake Kelly's November 13, 2012 at 9:51 am

You’re not alone, we all get overwhelmed and let the negativity take over. In so sorry for your loss, Tina, thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

41 Kaitlin @4loveofcarrots November 13, 2012 at 9:51 am

I’m so sorry Tina this breaks my heart!!! My thoughts are with you are your family, I would be devastated if this happened to my dog!!

42 Kaitlyn November 13, 2012 at 10:13 am

I am so so sorry. I cannot imagine. A couple of years ago my dog got out and was hit. She ended up being ok, but the overwhelming emotions I felt when it happened were traumatizing. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Pets are family to us.

43 Shanna, like Banana November 13, 2012 at 10:17 am

Oh Tina, I am so so sorry. Losing a pet is horrific. There are just no words. Hugs to you…

44 Christine @ Love, Life, Surf November 13, 2012 at 10:22 am

Oh Tina. I’m so very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family.

45 Foo November 13, 2012 at 10:23 am

I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved Roxy. My heart goes out to you and your family. Hugs and prayers to you all.

46 Alex @ therunwithin November 13, 2012 at 10:27 am

Oh my gosh my heart is with you. I am so sorry for this, I know a pet is more than an animal but a big part of the family. My prayers are with you today.

47 Kelli November 13, 2012 at 10:28 am

OMG I wasn’t expecting that I am soooo sorry as a HUGE dog lover I couldn’t even imagine!! So sorry for you

48 Michelle November 13, 2012 at 10:29 am

I’m so sorry Tina :( It is really about perspective, every day. It’s hard to see it through the weeds sometimes, but when you do it can definitely be heartbreaking. My heart goes out to you and your family. Be kind to yourself. *hugs*

49 Tara | Treble in the Kitchen November 13, 2012 at 10:34 am

Tina! I am sooooo sorry for your loss. Try to keep it positive! We are all thinking of you!

50 Katy @MonsterProof November 13, 2012 at 10:49 am

I’m so sorry! Thinking of you.

51 Kasandra November 13, 2012 at 10:51 am

Tina, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. As a huge animal lover, I cannot imagine your pain. Roxy is in a peaceful place now without pain. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

52 jobo November 13, 2012 at 11:01 am

oh my goodness Tina. I am SO so sorry. My heart fell when I read this post. What a day, for starters, and one that turned into something you never expected. Your poor pup will be forever remembered, and while I know you feel so so guilty, I hope you can have a little hope and peace in knowing that everything in our lives is meant to happen, even as sad and emotional and heartbreaking as this is. I am so sorry. I will hug my furbabies a little tighter and keep this perspective as much as I possibly can. XOXO

53 Olivia Hill @ life as liv November 13, 2012 at 11:03 am

It’s crazy how quickly one event can snap all of the trivial daily problems into perspective. I’m so sorry this event for you had to be the death of your dog. I know that if I had this same experience with my puppy (Ruby) I would be absolutely devastated. You and your family are in my prayers, especially your children. Something like this must be traumatizing for sweet kids.

54 Laura @ Mommy Run Fast November 13, 2012 at 11:04 am

Oh, gosh, Tina- what an awful day! Any one of those things would have been enough to make me grumpy (the woman in line, running late, kids not napping) but to have to say goodbye to you dog on top of it all is terrible. I’m so sorry… thank you for the perspective, the little things really don’t matter that much. I hope you are handling her death okay. Sending hugs!

55 Ari @ Ari's Menu November 13, 2012 at 11:06 am

I’m so sorry Tina :( :( I love the positive spin your putting on not taking things for granted and not sweating the minor things, but I hope you are giving yourself some grace and not beating yourself up for letting those things get to you. Like you said, we all have our days, and sometimes in the moment those things do seem like a huge deal. Sending tons of positive energy your way, and hoping today is a much better day!

56 Bianca @ Confessions of a Chocoholic November 13, 2012 at 11:08 am

I am sorry to hear about your dog, Tina. Thanks for reminding us all to have a little perspective and to remember the things that really matter. Take care.

57 Alyse November 13, 2012 at 11:13 am

Tina. I am so sorry you lost Roxy.

58 Lisa November 13, 2012 at 11:18 am

Oh Tina, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your dog. It just makes all those memories a blessing, and so important to keep in your memory. These moment really make us put things into perspective! Wishing you a better day<3

59 Amanda November 13, 2012 at 11:35 am

Tina- I am so sorry about Roxy. Your post does put things in perspective, and my heart goes out to you.

60 Lissy November 13, 2012 at 11:38 am

I’m so sorry about your pup :(

61 Ali @ Around the VeggieTable November 13, 2012 at 11:42 am

I am so so sorry for your loss. This was so sad to read and I am sure you feel absolutely terrible. Praying for you.

62 Ali November 13, 2012 at 11:43 am

Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry my dear. What an overwhelming day… Let us FFA know if you need anything!! We are here for you!

63 Jess@atasteofconfidence November 13, 2012 at 11:47 am

Ugh hun I am so sorry! I will be thinking of you as I go about my day today. <3

64 Katie @ Peace Love & Oats November 13, 2012 at 11:49 am

Oh no, I am so sorry Tina, it’s so hard to lose a dog, they’re really like family. This was a great post and message though, we need to stop worrying so much about the little things and not take our lives for granted.

65 Allison November 13, 2012 at 11:51 am

I am so sorry about the lost of your pet. Pets are so happy and bring us good things in our lives! This was a great post even if very sad, I love puppies. I think we all need reminders that some days are bad and things go wrong but we have to be thankful for the good and not stress. Hope you feel better!!!

66 Heather @ For the Love of Kale November 13, 2012 at 11:53 am

Tina, I’m so so so sorry. Losing a pet is so hard and I can’t imagine how difficult this must be for you. I’m sending you lots of love and good energy. <3

When I'm having a day in which I feel like I'm in a funk, I try to laugh at what's going on in my head and tell the anxiety, anger, etc. that it has no space in my heart – and there's only room for love and good thoughts. I take a deep breath and say "Spirit, I welcome your guidance to help me to teach and walk with love." It works every time. I've been using this a lot the past few months, as I've been dealing with my parents' recent divorce. One thing I've learned that impacted me most is that as long as I choose to change my fear/anxiety/anger into love, the Universe has my back and is teaching me a lesson. xoxo

67 tinareale November 14, 2012 at 7:48 am

Great thoughts and thanks for that. Asking the Spirit in can really make such a difference.

68 Tracey November 13, 2012 at 11:55 am

I got tears in my eyes reading this. I’m so sorry for the loss of your dog. Good reminder for me to put things in perspective. While I was having a bad day yesterday, you were having an even worse one. Will keep your family in my prayers.

69 Irina @ Chocolatea Time November 13, 2012 at 12:08 pm

I am so so sorry, Tina. My heart is with you and your family. Just remember that life has a secret way of working things out in the end, and the pain will go away slowly but surely. Stay strong!

70 Alicia at Poise in Parma November 13, 2012 at 12:29 pm

Tina, I am so so sorry. I never expected this post to end this way. Many long distance hugs to you and your family for your loss.

71 Rachel @ Eat, Learn, Discover! November 13, 2012 at 12:29 pm

Sending love to you and your family <3

72 Jentry Nielsen November 13, 2012 at 12:30 pm

Tina I am SOO incredibly sorry to hear about the loss of your dog! What a beautiful, loving dog she was! My prayers go with you and your family through this hard time! You have no reason to blame yourself, just one of lifes misfortunes. You are right, life is short and you can only now be grateful for the memories Roxy has given you and be thankful for those! Lots of love to you and your family during this difficult time!

73 Brittany @berries and barbells November 13, 2012 at 12:40 pm

Oh Tina, I’m SO sorry about your dog. You are your family are in my prayers.

74 clare @ fittingitallin November 13, 2012 at 1:08 pm

I am so so sorry Tina!! Great post to help us keep things in perspective. Thank you.

75 Megan @ Fiterature November 13, 2012 at 1:08 pm

Tina, I am so sorry. My heard breaks for your family. You certainly don’t NEED me (or anyone) to tell you this, but sometimes it’s nice to hear: It wasn’t your fault. These things happen. Now it’s time to wrap your family in your arms, remember the great times Roxy gave you, and be thankful you have one another. God is good, and healing will come.

76 Danica @ It's Progression November 13, 2012 at 1:11 pm

Oh Tina, I’m so sorry :(
I admire the perspective you’re taking on this all though–very inspirational.

77 Alayna @ Thyme Bombe November 13, 2012 at 1:14 pm

Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear that. You couldn’t have known the pain waiting for you at the end of the day when you were standing in that grocery line though. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling the way you did before you knew something worse was coming. I totally get what you’re saying about not getting worked up about the little stuff though. There’s no sense in feeling frustrated and angry all the time from all the petty crap that hits us every day. HUGS!

78 Caroline November 13, 2012 at 1:30 pm

I’m sorry about your dog- how sad! It’s hard with gaining perspective, because when we go through something we tend to have short term memory. We think it will make a difference and lots of times it really doesn’t long term. It takes work to keep the perspective. I’m sorry for the day you had- sounds like a tough one ending in a sad loss. Animals are a special part of the family.

79 STUFT Mama November 13, 2012 at 1:31 pm

Oh my friend…… my heart is breaking for you. It’s amazing how these things happen at times to give us perspective. I am soooooo sorry. Your strength through this is beyond what I can imagine. HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

80 Lauren @ Sassy Molassy November 13, 2012 at 1:35 pm

Tina, I’m so sorry about your dog!! Hang in there. Accidents happen, but it doesn’t make it easier to process I’m sure.

81 Brittany (Healthy Slice of Life) November 13, 2012 at 1:46 pm

Oh my gosh, Tina, I’m bawling. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Pets are so special and I can’t fully understand how it must feel, being that Koda is my first dog. Sending so much love your way. <3

82 Christin November 13, 2012 at 1:48 pm

Oh Tina I am so sorry!! Big hugs!!

We’ve all had days like that, and you’re absolutely right, it does remind us to be thankful for the blessings we have been given. This verse was in my devotional today…the devotional I do as one of my goals for BBB! I found comfort in it, knowing that God does provide treasures in dark places…it’s up to us to accept them and hear Him call us by name :)

Isaiah 45:3 I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name.

I pray you a blessed day!

83 tinareale November 14, 2012 at 7:49 am

Thank you so much for that Christin. Perfect verse for that day.

84 Aundra Weissert @ Fit for Life November 13, 2012 at 1:53 pm

Oh, Tina — my heart is with you and your family!! As tough as it was, thank you for writing this post. It helps us realize the need to change our perspective. I’m going to cuddle my kitten extra tight tonight and remind myself not to get upset when he leaves presents on the bathroom rug. Lots of hugs.

85 Jen November 13, 2012 at 1:53 pm

Tina – I’m very sorry for your loss. Roxy was part of your family. Hugs to you.

86 Maria November 13, 2012 at 1:54 pm

Big hugs to you, Tina and thank you for the reminder. We are human after all and as much as we try to be grateful ever single day, it’s a struggle. Rest in peace, Roxy.

I just lost my dog a few weeks ago to kidney failure on my birthday and it’s one of the most heartbreaking things…so I feel for you.

87 Jen November 13, 2012 at 2:01 pm

I am so, so sorry for your family’s loss Tina. Pets are so special. Huge hugs to you all <3

88 Elle November 13, 2012 at 2:01 pm

I am sitting here with tears starting to flow. I am so sorry for your loss – sending huge hugs to you and your family – I have been there, and it just hurts so much. Your Roxy was such a beauty and I know you are missing her a lot.

89 Erin @ Loop Looks November 13, 2012 at 2:18 pm

My heart breaks for you, Tina. That is such a horrible thing to endure.

I got some perspective yesterday, too. Thank you for reminding me.

90 Julia H. @ Live Young & Prosper November 13, 2012 at 2:19 pm

Oh, Tina, I’m so sorry for you and your family. I know this must be hard, but hang in there…I’ll keep your family & Roxy in my thoughts.
And thank you for writing such an honest and heartfelt post.

91 Michelle@Peachy Palate November 13, 2012 at 2:30 pm

Oh my god I was not expecting that ending and ended up sheding some tears! That’s so sad but so true what you mean about putting this in to perspective! I so rigid sometimes with my plans and how I want things to go and get myself unnecessarily worked up about things falling out of place, anxious and tense just like you were describing your day yesterday.
I just found out two days ago my Nan who is only just 70 has cancer and has to be taken in next week to have a full hysterectomy… life it too short, there is a bigger picture and we need to constantly remind ourselves…it ain’t easy though.
I’m so sorry to hear about your dog..I hope you and your family are ok, my thoughts are with you! xxxxx

92 Melissa K. November 13, 2012 at 2:33 pm

Oh Tina. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know how important pets are–they’re such a part of the family. My heart goes out to you and I’ll certainly be praying for you.

93 deborah November 13, 2012 at 2:34 pm

So sorry to hear about your Roxy. May she rest in peace. Sending good thoughts & prayers to you & yours.

94 healthy ashley November 13, 2012 at 2:35 pm

Tears for your loss <3

95 Mellissa November 13, 2012 at 2:38 pm

Sending big hugs! I was crying reading this. I hope your day/week gets better.

96 tinareale November 14, 2012 at 7:51 am

Thanks, Mellissa!

97 Kierston November 13, 2012 at 3:07 pm

I am so sorry to hear about your dog’s passing. Thinking of you xo

98 janetha November 13, 2012 at 3:10 pm

I’m crying. I’m sorry. I love you.

99 misszippy November 13, 2012 at 3:14 pm

I am SO sorry. What a sad day for your family. Please don’t beat yourself up with guilt–it could have happened to anyone like that. Sending you a hug and a prayer!

100 Michelle November 13, 2012 at 3:16 pm

Tina,
I’m so sorry for your loss. I appreciate the reminder for us all to appreciate all that we have…something I certainly need to be reminded of from time to time.

101 Katie November 13, 2012 at 3:38 pm

So sorry for your loss Tina! :( I know what it’s like to lose a pet. It hurts so much. Thinking of you today!

102 Emily November 13, 2012 at 4:09 pm

I’m so so sorry to hear this, friend. :( Sending you and your family lots of love and light today.

103 Lynn Soon November 13, 2012 at 4:55 pm

What a great post. You are so right about life being short, and we should take pause to really understand that. I’m so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you and your family during this time.

104 Stacy @ Stacy Eats November 13, 2012 at 4:58 pm

Tina, I am so so very sorry. My heart goes out to you, Peter and the kids. Growing up our family dog was also hit by a car and it was a terrible feeling. Let me know if there is anything at all I can do to help.

105 lindsay November 13, 2012 at 4:59 pm

wow friend, just wow. I am so sorry. I didn’t see that coming when reading your post. You know, God has a way of showing what life is about. It’s not your fault that Roxy died, and you are human, you cannot think positive 24/7. But praise God for HIS MERCIES are NEW EVERY MORNING. HIS GRACE is ENOUGH! Dwell in that, in that perspective, like you mentioned. Hugs hugs hugs to you!

106 Amanda @ Click. The Good News November 13, 2012 at 5:14 pm

Awww..i’m so so sorry Tina. Life just stinks sometimes & there’s no way around it. I can’t imagine your heartache & I hope you find peace in this situation. {{HUGS}}

107 Stefanie @ Thin Vegetarian November 13, 2012 at 5:25 pm

That is awful! I thought I was having a very rough morning: couldn’t sleep, felt like I had the stomach virus, had a midterm, and it was a cold and rainy morning, but after reading this post I was able to get a grip on my situation and looking back on it, today was actually a pretty good day. Got to focus on the positive!

108 Heather @ Better With Veggies November 13, 2012 at 6:10 pm

Oh my gosh…I’m so sorry! I’m just reading this post (busy day) and I am so sad for you. I’ll be praying for you guys, I can’t imagine what you’re going through. This is not the way you want to be reminded of perspective, but good for you pulling out the positive lesson. :(

109 Calee November 13, 2012 at 6:47 pm

MAJOR HUGS to you and your family. :( Losing a dog is sad, especially when you have to make a tough decision like that.

110 Nancy November 13, 2012 at 7:00 pm

This is the first time I have visited your blog, and what an emotional entry! I am so sorry about your dog. Sometimes life has unexpected twists and turns. Hope today was better.

111 Angela @ Happy Fit Mama November 13, 2012 at 7:50 pm

Oh, Tina, I am so sorry for your loss. I had no idea that was the direction your post was going. I’ve been there and know how horrible it feels. It stings now but will get better. Sending hugs and thoughts your way.

112 Pavement Runner November 13, 2012 at 7:59 pm

OMG. I know it may be hard, but NOT YOUR FAULT. 100% NOT YOUR FAULT. You can’t let yourself feel guilty. I’m terribly sorry. My dog is a huge part of my life (and my family’s) and as she gets older, I dread that day that I may have to make “the decision.”

I’m sending you so many virtual hugs and positive vibes. A true member of the family that was loved and appreciated.

113 Lorrie November 13, 2012 at 8:30 pm

Tina, sooo sorry. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

114 Michele @ Nycrunningmama November 13, 2012 at 8:33 pm

Oh my gosh, Tina. I am so, so sorry to hear this. I can’t imagine what you must be going through. I know everyone is saying it – but it’s true – it’s NOT your fault at all. Don’t feel guilty about it.
I wish that I could fly to see you to give you a big hug right now. I am sure the suddenness of it made it 100x harder…
Please know that I am keeping you, beautiful Roxy, and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

115 Nicola November 13, 2012 at 8:43 pm

I am so sorry Tina :( I always read your blog, but don’t normally comment. That is such an awful day, with a horrible ending. I hope you guys can get through this ok.

116 KymberlyFunFit November 13, 2012 at 8:55 pm

I appreciate your comments about how your situation is not as bad as others’ but it does not diminish the significance of losing your dog. I hope you can put aside the guilt as that is so heavy combined with your loss. I am so sorry to hear of your dog and hope you have a lot of great memories.

117 tinareale November 14, 2012 at 7:53 am

Thanks, Kymberly. You’re very right. All pain felt is legitimate to a person for whatever reason. Thank you for honoring that and reminding me to honor my feelings as well. :)

118 Erin @ Girl Gone Veggie November 13, 2012 at 9:51 pm

Aww Tina I’m so so sorry. I’m sending big hugs and happy thoughts your way! <3

119 Christine November 13, 2012 at 10:19 pm

Ah, hun. I’m sorry for your family’s loss. Lots of hugs and a prayer.

120 Lindsay @ The Lean Green Bean November 13, 2012 at 10:40 pm

so so sorry my friend :( wish i could give you a great big hug!

121 Linz @ Itz Linz November 13, 2012 at 10:57 pm

Tina, I am SO sorry about your dog!! :( Thoughts and prayers your way… xoxo

122 Shannon (Healthiful Balance) November 14, 2012 at 3:15 am

Aw, Tina! I’m sorry to hear that you didnt have a nice day. I’m sorry about your dog! I hope you feel better today, though! <3 GOD BLESS!

123 Bek @ Crave November 14, 2012 at 3:17 am

OH Tina! I am so so so sorry to hear about your dog. I hope you’re okay and not beating yourself up for it. I do hope you feel better today and can grieve with your family. It’s okay to feel shitty when you’re having a bad day. Internet hugs & kisses xo

124 Paige @ Your Trainer Paige November 14, 2012 at 8:27 am

omg, Tina…I am SO SO sorry :( My heart is seriously aching for you and your family right now.

125 Patty November 14, 2012 at 9:18 am

My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry for your loss xoxo

126 Lauren November 14, 2012 at 9:28 am

I am so sorry for your loss :( I have had to put down two of my dogs the past couple of years so I understand how heartbreaking it is to lose a cherished pet. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

127 Megan November 14, 2012 at 9:35 am

Thinking of you in such a hard time! I lost both my childhood dogs in the last six months, and it still breaks my heart whenever I think of them (a lot, mind you). Hugs, love and prayers to you and your family!

128 Bethany @ Accidental Intentions November 14, 2012 at 10:20 am

Time got away from me yesterday, but I wanted to say that I’m so sorry for the loss of your dog and all the troubles you had thrown your way the other day. My thoughts and prayers are definitely with you <3

129 chelsey @ clean eating chelsey November 14, 2012 at 12:44 pm

Gosh, Tina! What an awful day. I’m so sorry to hear about Roxy.Dogs are certainly family members – I can’t even imagine. Remember that all dogs go to heaven!

130 Sandra Laflamme November 14, 2012 at 1:53 pm

Tina, I am so sorry for the loss of Roxy. Tears welled in my eyes as I read this. I am sure that your family is extremely sad. Thinking of you in this difficult time and sending hugs!

131 Lauren (@poweredbypb) November 14, 2012 at 4:15 pm

Sorry for your loss Tina!

132 Michelle November 14, 2012 at 6:42 pm

Tina,
I am really, really sorry about your dog. Thinking of you.

Michelle

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