It Wasn’t Necessary

by tinareale on November 30, 2011

I finally saw Breaking Dawn!!! Way back when I used to teach high school, I kept hearing both students and teachers alike rave about the book series Twilight. I thought they were all crazy. What’s there to love about a teenage vampire love story drama? Come on!

Then, I read one in an attempt to prove a point that I would hate the series…and got sucked in. I sucked my sister in as well, so now we have a tradition of visiting the movies whenever a new Twilight movie comes out.


I had two tickets I got on the cheap thanks to a group deal site awhile ago. So I treated my sister to the movie for our regular sister night. Around 5 pm we arrived to an empty, dead theater.


Which worked for us, because then we could sit and chat without dirty looks before the movie started and during the previews. We always have to give our snap judgments to each other on all previews. For the record, I flipped my lid when they showed the preview for some movie called The Woman In Black. It showed a bunch of figurines, porcelain dolls, and marionettes. All of which freak me the heck out! {{{shudders}}}

While analyzing previews, we realized we didn’t pick up our traditional box of Hot Tamales candy to share.


We both have the same love of these chewy, cinnamon candies and take advantage of the chance to delight in them together seriously every time we go to a movie together. Yet, this time, I didn’t even think of them.

If we had thought about picking them up before the movie, I honestly believe I would have made the pit stop to grab a box. Purely out of habit and in the name of tradition.

You all know I don’t have a problem with satisfying a true craving. I spent years denying cravings only to end up on the other extreme and binging. However, over the years, I have also learned the importance of mindful eating. The importance of eating for satisfaction and not simply out of routine. I have begun to value special moments more for the people and memories associated with them, instead of focusing on the food.

When I thought about it, I realized that so many scenarios have food choices that happen out of habit.

  • candy at the movies
  • something sweet after dinner
  • pretzel or Starbucks at the mall
  • post long-run foodstravaganza
  • funnel cake at the fair
  • huge meals to celebrate
  • stopping for fast food when traveling

How often do we…do I…eat something purely for tradition without even really thinking if I’m hungry for it or craving it? I can remember last year having a big birthday dinner out because “it was my birthday and I’m supposed to”, when really I just wanted a light quick fix meal at home. Or buying things I don’t even really like anymore, just because it’s what I’ve always done.

I’m NOT saying having food traditions or using food in a celebration shouldn’t happen. Heck – my Saturday pizza and beer nights happen frequently on Saturday because I am often legitimately hungry and CRAVING them after my long-run earlier that day. If something is a special, rare treat that I truly love, you better believe I will still partake even if not completely hungry.

But I also don’t want to do what I’ve always done without thinking about where I am now. I want to consider my goals for an enjoyable lifestyle and for a healthy lifestyle. In order to do so, I must remain aware of my choices and in tune with what will really satisfy me on all levels. And, as it turned out yesterday, the spicy conversation with my sister satisfied me way more than any spicy candy.


And if you’re wondering how the movie was …MEH. It’s part one so nothing too thrilling happens. In my opinion, you could skip it until closer to the final film. Even though they did it really well in relation to the book (from what I remember), it was by far my least favorite of the Twilight movies so far. Although I can’t wait to see part two. I’m really interested to see how they do up the final play of things. I still think the books should continue. The ending frustrated me so much!

  • Do you have any standard eating habits/traditions you never think twice about?
  • What’s a random thing that freaks you out? Want to see me scream? Put one of those porcelain dolls with the shifty eyes in front of me. I promise you I will scream, hyperventilate, and likely cry.


1 chelsey @ clean eating chelsey November 30, 2011 at 7:22 am

SHUT UP! I thought it was the best one yet in the series! And um, I agree about that preview – it was creeepy!

2 Kayla @ Sprouty Buns November 30, 2011 at 7:31 am

Breakfast is definitely ‘habit eating’ for me. 99.9% of the time I wake up ready to eat but even if I’m not hungry, I will still eat breakfast. I guess it’s a pretty good habit to have :) I know if I don’t properly fuel in the morning, I’ll be regretting it later aka cranky, bottomless pit.

3 Kirstie @ Musings of a Happy Life November 30, 2011 at 11:48 pm

This is my one too. I’m definitely a habitual breakfast eater :-)

4 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 1:51 pm

Makes me think some eating habits may be good. I’m a habitual breakfast eater too. I think for me, it boils down to eating if not 100% hungry then because otherwise I wouldn’t be able to eat until much past hitting the hunger level. And that is NO good. ;)

5 Erica November 30, 2011 at 7:41 am

We totally have a few eating traditions that aren’t totally necessary (i.e. froyo after certain events). I do try to evaluate it I truly want something/am hungry…but sometimes give into the tradition! Great thoughts!

6 katie November 30, 2011 at 7:44 am

I need to go see it! Sadly, I have never read the books, just watched the movies, but love it!

Happy Wednesday love! xoxo <3

7 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 1:51 pm

Oh the books are SOOOOO much better!

8 Heather (Heather's Dish) November 30, 2011 at 8:01 am

i’ve only seen the first twilight movie and never read the books…i think i may be the only person in all of America! it’s hard for me to buy stuff at the theater and we never think to stop somewhere beforehand, but nate LOVES the popcorn. like he’ll eat a tiny dinner (if at all) so that he has room for the popcorn there. i’ll inevitably have a couple handfuls, but thankfully that’s all that ever tastes good to me :)

9 Brittany (A Healthy Slice of Life) November 30, 2011 at 9:01 am

You’re not alone! I’ve never read the books and after the watching the first movie (which I though sucked), I don’t have any desire to get into it. We’re probably the only two though ;)

10 Ana Maria November 30, 2011 at 7:41 pm

Nope, I’m with you girls, too! I think it’s a totally unrealistic portrayal of romance that sets up ridiculous/dangerous standards (stalker much; selfish love much?) and is just generally creepy!

Apologies to Twilight lovers.

11 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 1:52 pm

No need to apologize. It is a very unrealistic type of love and borderline obsession. But it’s still fun to me. :)

12 Claire @ Live and Love to Eat November 30, 2011 at 8:10 am

We had opposite experiences – I read it and tried to love it but ended up hating every second. I can easily avoid candy at the movies, but I can down a bag of popcorn no matter how full I am.

13 Denise November 30, 2011 at 8:22 am

My morning routine is the same everyday – sad but true.

I CANNOT stand hearing somebody smack gum, chew ice or chew with there mouth open!!!!!

14 jobo November 30, 2011 at 8:38 am

TOTALLY agree with you…eating out of tradition has flown out the window for me too, for the most part (sure, once in awhile, okay, but it’s not like we HAVE to do it, either, ya know? Start new ones!). Being mindful about eating isn’t only about the meals, but the snacks, the moments where you just go for it out of routine or because you always do, those are the best learnings for me about being more mindful!

15 Lauren @ What Lauren Likes November 30, 2011 at 8:40 am

I have yet to see it! I need to…. :)

16 khushboo November 30, 2011 at 8:42 am

As weird as it sounds, hearing or seeing other people weirds/grosses me out!

17 Annette @ with a side of brownies November 30, 2011 at 8:49 am

I have never seen a Twilight movie. After reading quit a few blogs where everyone had been raving about their love of Twilight I finally succumbed to peer pressure and decided to read the first book ;) . Sadly it wasn’t at the library, but when I was in the comic book section with my son I found the Twilight graffic novel. Now I would like to read it just because I want to not because all the cook kids are going it :)

18 Anna Marie November 30, 2011 at 8:50 am

I love what you said about eating something to satisfy a craving! I love DQ blizzards but the other day I was kind of meh about them however we have a tradition of having one every time we go to Texas. I got one but it was not as satisfying as it would have been if I were seriously craving one. Our bodies know what they want!

19 Jamie @ FoodinRealLife November 30, 2011 at 8:54 am

I do have some food traditions, but I don’t know if I’d equate them with mindless eating because I actually think about them a whole lot more than when I’m standing in the pantry eating randomly at home. The Starbucks on the go while shopping is actually one of my all time favorite traditional treats! Oh and I totally thought I was the only person that loves hot tamales!

20 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 1:55 pm

I tried to convey that traditions with food are 100% awesome if you actually want the item. I’m all for food traditions. ;) I guess it just bothers me to eat something just because, but not really wanting it.

21 Julia H. @ The Petite Spiel November 30, 2011 at 8:56 am

No way–I’m very very afraid of porcelain dolls, too! I used to be even worse when I was a kid. My aunt once bought me one as a gift and I couldn’t look at it. We ended up donating it to a child at the hospital where my dad worked, and when he showed me a photo of the little girl holding the doll, I started screaming and crying. They’re so creepy!

22 Heather November 30, 2011 at 8:57 am

I saw it last night too! Thought it was good but the beginning was ssooo ssllloowww. I can’t wait for part two!

23 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 1:55 pm

That’s how I felt. It was VERY slow. Which makes sense because it’s setting up everything for the second half, which should be very good!

24 Jess November 30, 2011 at 9:26 am

This is something I’ve learned a LOT about lately – about my eating patterns, and about eating from habit vs. eating because I truly want whatever it is I’m about to put into my mouth. I’ve learned to be more mindful of my food choices and veering away from “patterns” vs. sticking to those patterns purely because “that’s what I used to do.” It’s been such a big learning experience but so so so worth it. I have never felt more centered, more balanced, more healthy than I do right now.

25 Katie @ Peace Love & Oats November 30, 2011 at 9:26 am

I definitely have some weekend food habits that I need to get out of. Last weekend I got my usual fro-yo just because I was next to it, I didn’t even feel like it! I need to learn to eat more intuitively!

26 Rachel @ Eat, Learn, Discover! November 30, 2011 at 9:53 am

They’re making a movie out of the Woman in Black?! I saw that show on stage in London West End! It was so creepy/scary!
After years of mindless snacking, intuitive eating is the hardest thing to settle into! My family and I have so many food-related traditions, especially involving desserts – my ultimate weakness.

27 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 1:56 pm

If you have a tradition with a food you really want, then go for it! :)

28 Lindsay @ Lindsay's List November 30, 2011 at 10:42 am

Totally agree with you – the movie wasn’t all that great. But then, I really didn’t like any of them. Bad acting! The books were MUCH better!

29 Lee November 30, 2011 at 10:56 am

I’m very guilty of eating dessert after dinner just out of habit. I’m usually not even hungry for it.

30 Tina November 30, 2011 at 10:58 am

Lee, i’m with you on this one! I just crave something sweet after dinner and I just have it every night no matter what.

31 Anna @ On Anna's Plate November 30, 2011 at 11:07 am

I’ve gotten that way with popcorn at the movies– sometimes I’m not hungry at ALL, but I think, “But I have to have popcorn!!!” :-)

32 Lisa ♥ Healthful Sense November 30, 2011 at 12:09 pm

I haven’t seen or read the Twilight series…
I would have to say that coffee is my morning habit… morning + coffee just goes together!
And I just love your new site… awesome!!

33 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 1:57 pm

Thanks, Lisa!

And morning coffee is a habit of mine that I know I mindlessly do. Probably because I need the caffeine before I can start thinking. ;)

34 Paula @ lipstick and lunges November 30, 2011 at 12:37 pm

I had that same feeling on Monday night. My husband and I always have some chips and salsa when we watch MNF. As I was reaching for a chip I thought, I’m not hungry, I’m not craving anything salty, in fact I’m really in the mood for a mug of tea. Sometimes you just get into the routine and don’t even notice if it’s something you want or just a habit.

35 Alyssa @ Life of bLyss November 30, 2011 at 1:36 pm

uuugh, I so still need to go see it. I haven’t been able to strongarm any of my friends to go see it with me yet. and YES.. I’m the same way with movie candy! I feel like I can’t enjoy a movie without something delicious to munch on.

36 Christelle November 30, 2011 at 2:00 pm

Call me crazy, but I did not like Twilight series. I only read them cause all my friends were reading them, and I’m usually a somewhat fast reader, and it took me almost 1 full year to finish the books, that’s how un-interested I was in them, but if I started them, I might as well finish them. I have yet to see a movie thought. And for me, any kind of celebration or anything involves food, I am moving in 2 weeks, and all my “goodbye event” involves going out to eat to say goodbye…and when I get back home, all my “welcome home events” involve all my favorite restaurants, when I get a new job, birthdays, anything excited to me involves going out for a meal to celebrate….I don’t know why but it has always been like that, and I’m not ready to change that!

37 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 1:59 pm

I’m all for celebrating with food involved! I wanted to make the point to make sure to still listen to hunger cues and have what you really want. You should enjoy all those things that you love. :)

38 Bianca @ Confessions of a Chocoholic November 30, 2011 at 2:16 pm

I definitely eat a lot of things out of habit (and boredom) so I’m glad you brought up mindful eating. I feel so much better when I actually stop and enjoy what I’m eating instead of just mindlessly chewing!

39 Christine @ Merf In Progress November 30, 2011 at 3:02 pm

you got “sucked in” — get it? get it?

40 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 1:59 pm

Hahahaha!!! I didn’t even intend that pun!

41 Rosa - Fitness Food Fulfilled November 30, 2011 at 3:22 pm

I used to stop in at See’s Candies every time I was in a mall or shopping area with one near. They give you a free candy, even if you don’t buy anything. I stopped doing that because I really didn’t need the candy or the calories.

42 Annie November 30, 2011 at 3:38 pm

I saw the first movie, liked it – loved, DROOLED even!, then read all the books and saw the other movies. I have to say I liked the first one best. The others were a little…dunno, not boring but not as enthralling as the first one was! Haven’t seen BD yet but I agree with you about the ending. Didn’t like the book one at all!

Candy isn’t an issue when I go to the cinema because in France, it’s not really a habit to have something sweet when you go to see a movie so I don’t usually have anything nor do I feel deprived. Funny when I went to Ireland though (half Irish, I have some family there) you just HAD to have something sweet before the movie started!

43 Hilary November 30, 2011 at 3:45 pm

So true! I eat out of habit/routine much too often…mostly with late night snacking.

44 RunEatRepeat November 30, 2011 at 4:07 pm

I will always have a foodstravaganza after a long run. Always. No apologies. Word.

45 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 2:00 pm

Oh, most definitely me too. That’s where making sure I’m having what I’m really craving instead of just eating comes into play. In other words – the pizza and beer i mentioned. And some form of ice cream as well. ;)

46 Melissa @ Be Not Simply Good November 30, 2011 at 5:11 pm

Tina, I was JUST thinking about it today. We have dinner at church on Wednesday nights, and dessert is always part of the dinner. I almost always eat the dessert, whether or not it is something I really truly love. I was thinking today that unless it is an actual favorite of mine, I will go ahead and pass. Why eat something I don’t truly want, just because it’s there?

Regarding Twilight, I was much the same. I thought it sounded so dumb and wanted nothing to do with it. Finally a friend talked me into reading the first book, and I went on to read the rest of the books in pretty short order. Yep, I got hooked. My favorite book and movie has been Eclipse. The end of Breaking Dawn Part 1 really made that movie for me. I found it pretty so-so, but I liked the ending. :)

47 Kerry @ Half Healthy, Half Nuts November 30, 2011 at 5:50 pm

Um, I just watched the preview for that Woman in Black movie – holy cow, creepy! I must go see that. I has Harry Potter in it! :)

48 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 2:02 pm

I remember being like “Hey It’s Harry Potter!” Then got too distracted by the creeptastic dolls.

49 Kerry @ Half Healthy, Half Nuts November 30, 2011 at 5:50 pm

I meant… IT has Harry Potter in it. :)

50 Camilla November 30, 2011 at 7:05 pm

i like the new blog, but i miss FFF!

51 COREY @ Learning Patience November 30, 2011 at 8:40 pm

I absoultly love the new blog girl…you are so inspiring! I loved the new movie…

xoxo from Trinidad

52 Rebecca November 30, 2011 at 9:05 pm

I regret going to see Breaking Dawn, especially since I spent 10 freaking dollars on it. I will not be watching it again. It was way too graphic in parts, way too awkward. I read the books right when they were beginning to get popular. I hate the hype. They’re good, but they’re not THAT good. :\

53 Liz (Little Bitty Bakes) November 30, 2011 at 9:19 pm

Very timely post! I just finished up a big personal project this morning, and was going to “celebrate” with a bagel or donut & coffee out, but all I really wanted was a cup of Greek yogurt! So I went for it – celebrated with the yogurt. :)

PS – I love Hot Tamales! Way better than Good & Plenty (yuck!)

54 Alexa @ SimpleEats November 30, 2011 at 10:38 pm

I must MUST have popcorn from the theatre at every movie. It’s horrible for me, I know, but it’s like a tradition, almost!

55 Cheryl November 30, 2011 at 11:00 pm

One really weird food habit: every New Year’s at midnight, my family eats sauerkraut with hot dogs and sausages. That’s it. Then we go to bed.

Is this as weird as my friends make it out to be or does anyone else do this?!

56 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 2:03 pm

I know I’ve never heard of that one…but hey, whatever makes it special! :)

57 Amy November 30, 2011 at 11:24 pm

I talk to my patients about this all the time. The mindless eating that we find ourselves doing, just because, well that’s the way we’ve always done it. I am guilty of this especially after dinner. I always have something to eat after dinner. Usually fruit or yoghurt (sometimes a chocolate) but often times I’m not actually hungry.

58 Christine @ Oatmeal in my Bowl December 1, 2011 at 12:00 am

I loved Breaking Dawn! Ya… I wasn’t too impressed with Edward sparkling, but I got sucked up in the movies, too. ;)
Actually, the last time I went to the movies I had blueberry-granola bites and a water. Pretty good, eh? The theaters are getting a little better at what they serve. Well the bigger sized theaters are. The smaller ones, I still use my big bag to sneak in the good stuff.

59 Lauren @ Oatmeal after Spinning December 1, 2011 at 11:52 am

How did I miss that you used to teach high school? I have been a h.s. teacher for 7 years and dream of a career change…
It’s funny, because i know more TEACHERS that are obsessed with Twilight than students! I’ve still yet to read a book/see a movie!

60 tinareale December 1, 2011 at 2:06 pm

I guess I try to block it from my memory?? LOL

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