Morning, lovelies! Did you happen to catch my post yesterday with some link love and announcements you really don’t want to miss? If you did because you were out living life (yay!), then be sure to give it a quick look today. Good stuff going on.
Alright, time to chat. Something happened this weekend that really irked me pretty badly. If you follow me on Twitter, then you have already heard about it.
Totally happened. And I wanted to throw the dumbbell I was lifting at his head.
This trainer was working with a boot camp group training type of set-up and I could tell some of the guys in the group were very familiar with him. I tried giving the trainer the benefit of the doubt that he wasn’t actually serious and was more goofing off with his “training buds,” but oh no. He meant it as he was “joking around” with the entire group, including individuals that looked newer to the training and not so comfortable with all the harping.
It was like a bad car wreck. I couldn’t stop watching with my jaw dropped and my blood boiling.
Sure, that may work for some group dynamics – say a group of fairly close friends who have trained together for a decent amount of time. I do not think it’s the right technique as a trainer at work with a variety of individuals they are training, however. You can find so many more meaningful and useful ways to inspire and provide motivation. NOT humiliation and degradation.
Anyway, I left the gym rolling my eyes. Later that day I came across something that brought that little morning gym scenario into sharper focus.
Follow along with my crazy thought process here for a second, okay?
Perfection. Trying to do it all and do it all well. Or…perfectly. Then, when that perfection doesn’t happen, talking down to myself, getting in a funk, and allowing all sorts of negativity to overtake my thoughts and emotions. How many time have *I* used humiliation in the name of motivation for my own self? Talking down to myself with the goal of hoping to “do better” in the future because I didn’t do “good enough” this time?
I scoffed at the whole “motivation by humiliation” comment, but then realized I have practiced it myself numerous times. After all, who is a more influential trainer to myself than…me? I wanted to scream at that trainer to offer greater encouragement, gentler guiding, and kinder instruction to his diverse clients, yet later that day realized at times I don’t even offer the same to myself.
I have a feeling you felt almost or just as disgusted as I did when reading about a trainer flat out telling his group of clients he will humiliate them to motivate them. Then, how did you feel when you turned it around to how you train yourself? Do you support, guide, and encourage your dreams or suffocate them with humiliation and belittling accusations? Is perfect all that will suffice, leading to personal mocking and disapproval when it inevitably doesn’t happen? More importantly, for myself and all who can relate – how can we stop this?
Have you ever used humiliation as motivation for yourself? In the comments I would love to hear some positive mantras/sayings and other tools we can use to encourage ourselves and be the best possible “self-trainer” we can be. Here are two I personally use most often:
“Progress, not perfection”.
“For God did not give us a spirit of fear and weakness, but of power, love, and self-discipline”. 2 Tim 1:7
Now share yours!