You and I Just Don’t Get Along

by tinareale on January 25, 2012

Numbers.

Some numbers motivate me.

Like the mileage splits from my 7 mile tempo run last night. I didn’t expect the run to go all too well, honestly. I felt tired. I had a stressful day trying to care for my little man who has come down with another bad cold and fever. Peter got home from work 2 hours later than usual, putting my run much later than normal. I almost considered skipping it, but knew I needed that time to myself.

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Well, ran I did and I ended up covering 7 miles in under an hour! I warmed up for a mile, ran my 4 tempo miles, then slowed the pace a bit for the final two miles. Here is how it ended:

Mile 1 = 9:22 / Mile 2 = 8:15 / Mile 3 = 8:03 / Mile 4 = 8:09 / Mile 5 = 7:52 / Mile 6 = 8:58 / Mile 7 = 9:02 (avg = 8:31)

Workout numbers – such as miles, pace, weight lifted, number of reps – pump me up. They help me feel strong and appreciate my body for what it can do.

Some numbers get under my skin.

Weight. The scale.

I don’t weigh myself because I know it can easily mess with my head…but I’m also not immune.

Yesterday, as I put up laundry, I saw our scale peeking out from its tucked away space in the closet. I pulled it out. I stood in front of it. I turned it on. I stepped on it. I immediately kicked myself.

Not because I didn’t like what I saw. The number showed I have been maintaining. I kicked myself because I noticed that, in the recesses of my thoughts, I had secretly hoped to see something else. Something lower.

I have felt really good lately. Sure I have my down days, because we all do, but on the whole I have felt energetic, strong, and fit. Yet, I turned to the scale in a quest for validation of those feelings.I got caught up in needing a number to validate how I felt about my body, my strengths, and myself. I kicked myself because I know better.

I know the number on the scale doesn’t show my capabilities.

I know the number on the scale doesn’t show that my clothes have been fitting me exceptionally well.

I know the number on the scale doesn’t give me true confidence, but only messes with my head.

I know the number on the scale tells me nothing of my worth.

 

 

God tells me my worth, as a loved child of His with a purpose in this life.

My husband tells me my worth, as he believes in me and uplifts me with his love.

My children tell me my worth, as they look at me with broad smiles and wrap me in their hugs.

My passions tell me my worth, as I put my heart into things I’m truly good at and fill me up with such fire.

My body tells me my worth, as it has endured so much brutality but still continues to help me reach new limits.

I AM WORTHY.

So, shut up scale. I’m taking out your batteries. I may very well send you to the trash can. And I’m not letting an arbitrary number draw me in and try to rule my life. You may be a number that works for some people, but you and I just don’t get along. So, good riddance!

Whew. That felt good.

What numbers mess with your head? Go ahead and tell them to back off in the comments!

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1 Katie @ Raisins&Apples January 25, 2012 at 7:14 am

beautiful—amen :)

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2 Barbara January 25, 2012 at 7:21 am

Someone needs to invent a scale that prints out a little list of all the things we are doing well. I would buy that scale.

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3 Colleen @ The Lunchbox Diaries January 25, 2012 at 7:23 am

Amen! I can be having the best day ever, but stepping on the scale and seeing the number – even if it was like your situation and shows a maintained number – I still get in a funk. I try to stay away!

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4 Khushboo January 25, 2012 at 7:25 am

Another great post! I measure my worth, not some number or piece of equipment…no siree! I think there’s a line when numbers can be effective but at the same time, handle with precaution! As for weighing myself and counting calories, they do zilch for my mental health!

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5 Tara Burner January 25, 2012 at 7:25 am

amen..you are worthy! and beautiful

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6 Bex January 25, 2012 at 7:29 am

the worst purchase I ever made was a scale last year. I think it’s time for us to break up. we’re all worthy and so much more than any number. xoxo

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7 chelsey @ clean eating chelsey January 25, 2012 at 7:31 am

I have “weak” moments like that sometimes too – and to be honest with you, I don’t even remember what the scale said the last time I stepped on it, so it must not mean that much to me anyways. I’d much rather focus on how I feel, how my clothes feel, and inches rather than the weight. I’m sure you’re feeling AWESOME lately because your medicine has kicked in tremendously!

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8 Cheryl @ eatplayluvblog January 25, 2012 at 7:32 am

You are so speedy! I am inspired.

I struggle with the scale. Again with your timing–today I weighed myself after a week of being injured (so plenty of swimming instead of my normal running, spinning, swimming combo) and of trusting my body/eating dessert/the food I want. This isn’t new for me…I just recommitted to aiming for healthy and happy lately. I am scared of the extra weight on the scale, but I know it’s a) not possible that I gained that much FAT and b) I’ve learned so much from this week and without learning these things (the hard way), I don’t think I’d ever be able to leave behind the overeat/undereat dieting cycle.

Thanks for posting this, Tina!

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9 tinareale January 25, 2012 at 3:44 pm

I will say that when I initially stopped my harmful food habits I initially gained weight. With time my body balanced back out and I got to a healthy and (more importantly) HAPPY place. I know you can too! :)

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10 Jordan Lynn (Ciao Cow) January 25, 2012 at 7:34 am

I smashed my scale with a hammer last year when I realized how detrimental it had become to my mental health. It might seem crazy to some people, but it was an incredibly liberating moment for me. :) I have weighed myself a few times since then for maintenance, but for the most part, I am completely capable of maintaining a healthy weight without bad days because of a stupid number.

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11 Gabriela @ Une Vie Saine January 25, 2012 at 7:36 am

It’s funny, because the scale has never been a difficult number for me. Conversely, I think numbers like splits have a more perfectionistic effect. Over the past few years I’ve forced myself into a mindset that the number on the scale is just that- a number- and that I have to accept it no matter what it is, just like I accept the fact that my nose has a little bump in it and I’m not built to have a six-pack. No one is impressed by someone weighing X pounds, but people ARE impressed by race times, weight lifted, etc. I’m speaking for myself personally here, because I know that people (like you!) can be really POSITIVELY motivated by the numbers in their workout, but I just try to focus more on breaking a serious sweat!

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12 tinareale January 25, 2012 at 3:46 pm

I definitely agree we all have our own triggers. It’s crazy to me how the numbers of workouts don’t bother me at all, even when they are “bad” or not what I hoped. I always love hearing the different perspectives on things.

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13 Emily January 25, 2012 at 7:41 am

I don’t think I have ever read such an inspiring post on abandoning the scales! I love that you accentuated the positive ways to know your worth. I never think of myself as a slave to the scales because ours are so temperamental they’re unreliable anyway, but I think I may now just throw them away for good & take back the space they inhabit on our bathroom floor.
Also that photo alone makes me want to go out and run right this minute!

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14 Lee @ fit foodie finds January 25, 2012 at 7:45 am

The scale totally messes with me! The whole muscle/fat ratio is what gets me. Love this post :)

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15 Kinley @ Better Off Barefoot January 25, 2012 at 7:50 am

Thank you for this! Now I need to remember this and REALLY have it sink in and stick for once…

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16 Jamie @ Don't Forget the Cinnamon January 25, 2012 at 7:55 am

Calorie counts can totally mess with me! I find that when I know the caloric content of something, I don’t eat enough and am left feeling hungry an hour later.

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17 Nicole January 25, 2012 at 7:58 am

I agree, I do not weigh myself either. I don’t usually even look at the doctors office. I’m glad that you realized that worth isn’t a number.

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18 Heather (Heather's Dish) January 25, 2012 at 8:00 am

good girl…i have been having to be really careful when i go to the doctor’s office to not validate myself by the number i see on the scale. i have even told the nurses i’d prefer they not say the number, just because i don’t need to know it. i’m pregnant, i’m in great shape, and that little number? means nothing to me!

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19 Paige @ Running Around Normal January 25, 2012 at 8:01 am

Hell yes, Tina!
And you are super speedy!! Wow. A) I don’t think I could ever run a 7 mile run in the PM and B) 7 miles in under an hour? Rockstar status :)

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20 Mish January 25, 2012 at 8:03 am

Amen sista! I do weigh myself, but only if it is not for self worth. It’s more complex than the number for me and if I’m not in the right headspace I don’t do it. Good on you. I was 30lbs lighter than I am now and I was obsessed with the scale. I had muscle wasting and was starving. It’s important to relapse you’re a whole package and not just one thing,

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21 Mish January 25, 2012 at 11:08 am

*realise

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22 Sue @ Sue In Training January 25, 2012 at 8:03 am

Lately I’ve been slacking with running, so my average pace has dropped a lot. I’m much slower than last summer. I’m trying hard not to compare my current self with my past self, but it’s tough. So tough that I’m struggling to find motivation to keep running, thinking, “Why am I doing this? I’m so slow, it’s embarrassing!”
But I still have a little hope left, that I will get (a little) faster again someday.

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23 tinareale January 25, 2012 at 3:48 pm

I think that’s a really tough spot with comparing ourselves with past selves. I think that’s where I got the lower number for my weight scenario. We have to focus on if we’re healthy, happy, and doing our best NOW. Not then. I’m with ya!

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24 Brittany (Healthy Slice of Life) January 25, 2012 at 8:08 am

You aren’t alone, girl! I only weigh myself monthly now for my post baby weigh ins, but I still step on hoping to see a lower number, even though I’m pretty darn happy with where I am and how I feel. It’s crazy how society has beaten it into our heads that LESS is MORE when it comes to a woman’s weight. Good for you for kicking it to the curb!
And PS- 7 miles in less than 60 minutes? That is AWESOME!

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25 Katie @ Pop Culture Cuisine January 25, 2012 at 8:13 am

Oh I am with you on the scale…I actually got rid of our a few years back and the hubby won’t let me buy another one when I have my weak moments of “needing” one (smart man)! That being said, my inlaws have one and I decided to step on it the other evening just to see where I am post pregnancy, and while I was totally happy with the number I saw, it has messed me up since from the stand point that I have given into cravings I don’t usually have, because “why not” I’m at a good weight, but on the flip side also subconsciously calorie counting in my head to maintain that number. I just notice that weighing myself puts me on such a dangerous path, instead of just trusting my gut and how my clothes feel!

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26 Heather (Where's the Beach) January 25, 2012 at 8:16 am

Great job with that run time. Awesome! Pace really gets stuck in my head. Something I get hung up on then mad about if I can’t hit the pace I want.

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27 Alyssa @ Life of bLyss January 25, 2012 at 8:17 am

ugh, I needed to hear this one! the one negative to my nutrition plan with Jim has been having to track numbers again.. which I hate. I don’t own a scale for this reason, but I’ve been less than thrilled with my progress and really miss the days of no numbers and going by how I feel.

so, in your honor, I’m going to tell those numbers they ain’t mah boss. ;)

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28 mindy @ just a one girl revolution. January 25, 2012 at 8:19 am

I love love love this post. So much.

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29 Kaitlin @4loveofcarrots January 25, 2012 at 8:24 am

the numbers on the scale get under my skin, I used to weight myself everyday and it used to dictate my mood. Now I never weight myself and rely on how strong I feel and how well my clothes fit. I am in a much happier place because of this! The numbers on the time clock when I was a swimmer used to get under my skin SOOO badly it was ridiculous, luckily my swimming career is over and I am in a much happier place as well!

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30 Kristy January 25, 2012 at 8:25 am

I tossed my scale as a New Year’s Resolution. Not the easiest thing in the world to do, and I’ve gone through weighing withdrawals, but you’re so right! The number was determining my mood, and that was no longer acceptable. Great post! Thank you!

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31 Lee January 25, 2012 at 8:27 am

The scale definitely messes with my head. I want to buy that scale that just tells you if you’ve gained or lost weight and doesn’t tell you the number. It’s the number that gets to me.

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32 Tiff January 25, 2012 at 8:38 am

Clothing sizes mess with my head. Grrrrr

I have to admit, at the end of the post, all I could think about was Wayne’s World’s “we’re not worthy!” haha

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33 Lindsay @ In Sweetness and In Health January 25, 2012 at 8:39 am

Thank you for writing this! Great post Tina. I hate trying to validate myself through a number on the scale which is definitely something I have done. I really try to stay away from it now and I’ve learned to only use it every so often just to make sure that I’m in the maintenance range- I’ve also really learned that the numbers can fluctuate quite a bit based on the time of day and what I’ve eaten so I don’t let that get to me. Right now, the numbers that mess with my head have nothing to do with my health- they deal with my finances. My student loans are constantly creeping in the back of my mind and I hate it!

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34 Ashley @ My Food 'N' Fitness Diaries January 25, 2012 at 8:48 am

first off, way to go on your run! those are awesome splits! ;)

and oh yes, numbers mess with my head WAY more than i’d like… i try to stay away from the scale as much as possible too. as of a year ago, i would weigh myself incessently which would determine my emotions, my ENTIRE day, and i would become way to consumed with that stupid number. i decided about 8 months ago that i had had enough! you said it perfectly in this post… that number does NOT determine my (or anyone’s!) worth.

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35 Cat @Breakfast to Bed January 25, 2012 at 8:49 am

The scale is the devillllllllll. I KNOW I fit into my jeans better than ever, better than before i got pregnant with #2, I know I’ve been doing MORE weights than EVER, building beautiful muscle, but my scale mocks me and I want to kick its ass.

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36 tinareale January 25, 2012 at 3:52 pm

This is my favorite comment because I could have written it word for word.

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37 Mike January 25, 2012 at 8:51 am

Amen, sister.

Some numbers don’t tell the truth and some stats outright lie.

Your scale is pretty accurate, but it answers a question you didn’t ask. You really wanted to know “how do I look?”, “am I getting chubby”, but it tells you number of pounds. It’s precisely wrong – especially for someone putting on muscle.

Splits are different – the answer matters, but it’s less precise than you might think (recently posted on Roadbud about running precision). Even gps can be misleading.

And of course, you really nailed the most important figure – how much you’re loved. You’ve got it covered, but no device will capture that.

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38 Kelly January 25, 2012 at 8:53 am

LOVE IT!!!!! I won’t even let the doctor weigh me except on my once a year annual appointment. MY clothes still fit, and the number of the scale doesn’t matter when I go in for a sore throat.

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39 Heather January 25, 2012 at 9:00 am

way to go on the run!
I weigh myself about once a week just to make sure I am still on track but I also don’t take too much stock in the actual number (just if its fluctuating.) I have been weight lifting 4-5 days a week for 6 weeks so I know my number has gone up, but I am so much stronger!

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40 Heidi @BananaBuzzbomb January 25, 2012 at 9:05 am

A-to the-men!! Great post!

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41 Lindsay @ The Lean Green Bean January 25, 2012 at 9:17 am

i feel the same way. i avoid the scale except occasionally, but then i find myself always hoping for a lower number than i saw months ago, even though there’s really no need for that!

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42 Kelly @ Laughter, Strength, and Food January 25, 2012 at 9:19 am

I can’t remember the last time I weighed myself. A couple of years ago, I was at my lowest weight. It was still a healthy weight, but everyone that saw me didn’t think so. Everyone thought I was too skinny. I would lie if I said I didn’t like seeing that lower number on the scale. I have since put some of the weight back on and am happy with my body, however, I always compare my number to what it used to be…so I just avoid the whole thing. Isn’t it crazy how one little number can mean so much and pack so much emotion behind it?

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43 jobo January 25, 2012 at 9:25 am

AMEN Tina!! I am completely with you on this – I have only weighed myself twice where I saw the number during the barre n9ne challenge for the last 7-8 months and the rest, I have gone by inches lost and how incredible I FEEL. The scale messes with me too, and it’s not even truly a gauge of everything you rattled off, feeling fit, strong, confident. WE feel those things and we don’t need a scale to tell us. The scale messes with me so much as well and that is why I don’t even own a scale, for the temptation and the number isn’t worth the ‘messing with my head’ part. Great post! (and you look incredible!)

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44 Katie @ Healthy Heddleston January 25, 2012 at 9:41 am

Can I just say that you are getting so speeedy!

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45 Parita @ myinnershakti January 25, 2012 at 9:44 am

The number on the scale ruled my life for years! Even when it was “low,” I’d live in fear of it increasing. I’m glad that chapter of my life is over!

I did step on the scale the other day and while the number didn’t bother me like it would
have in the past, I still thought about how nice it woud be for it to be a bit lower. Then I got to work and reminded myself about how that number is just one representation of my health. I realized that I need to appreciate my body more. I’ve been blessed with a healthy one and need to be thankful for it more often!

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46 Katie @ Peace Love & Oats January 25, 2012 at 9:48 am

my problem right now is my jeans ARE too tight! But I’m trying to avoid the scale while I work to make them fit again because it always just makes me feel worse!

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47 Sarah January 25, 2012 at 9:53 am

Taking the batteries out is such a good idea. We still have our scale in the bathroom, and there have been a couple of times since deciding not to weigh myself that I’ve been tempted to look for validation in that number.
Or maybe my husband would be up for just throwing it out. Hmm…

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48 Amanda Perry @ Sistas of Strength January 25, 2012 at 10:06 am

If it bothers you that much you definitely have the right idea…take the batteries out or toss the scale. It’s one thing if you’re overweight and need to lose weight (and need to know how you’re doing), but you my dear are healthy and fit. No need for numbers to make you feel down when you’re doing amazing things like raising kids, being an awesome wife and running 7 miles in under an hour. Go you mama!

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49 Ginger January 25, 2012 at 12:11 pm

exactly what I was going to say. there isn’t a PURPOSE to your weigh-ins when you know you’re maintaining. This is why I don’t own a scale. my weight may fluctuate 5 pounds but I’ve been the same basic, healthy weight for years and years. a scale would just make me lose my mind about water weight (or worse, muscle weight!).

great attitude as always Tina! and OMG you can run fast

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50 Gina @ Running to the Kitchen January 25, 2012 at 10:10 am

Love this. I’ve never had a bad relationship with the scale. I can weigh myself and not get all worked up or obsessive about it but this post was awesome. I’ll be honest, most scale posts when people start talking about how it’s just numbers and not an accurate reflection of your worth…. kind of get under my skin. Maybe they’re too preachy or something? I don’t know, it’s the approach not the idea that bugs me, but you wrote about it so succinctly, honestly and straight forward(ly?) that for once I read a post about the scale and thought, “well done” :)

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51 tinareale January 25, 2012 at 3:55 pm

Aw, thanks!

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52 Runblondie26 January 25, 2012 at 10:14 am

Whoa, those are some beautiful splits. Nice run!

I may have missed where you mentioned this, but are you on thyroid meds now? Have you seen a change in your metabolism? Just curious if you notice a difference.

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53 tinareale January 25, 2012 at 3:57 pm

I am but they start you off at such a low dose I don’t feel like its doing much for me yet. I haven’t noticed much of a difference besides not being AS tired all the time. Still have more rough days than I think I should…especially now that I can see the difference between them!

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54 Sarah C January 25, 2012 at 10:15 am

What a well written post! Thank you for writing this as i too have been struggling with that darn number on the scale.

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55 Rachel @RunningRachel January 25, 2012 at 10:17 am

PERFECTLY written!! I too struggle with the number on the scale. As Lysa TerKeurst writes in her book, Made to Crave: the number on the scale measures the PHYSICAL weight of the woman, not the WORTH of the woman. <3

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56 Fiona @ Get Fit Fiona January 25, 2012 at 10:22 am

I hate when the scale does that to me. And if I`m honest it happens more often than not, yet I still decide to get on it. Ugh, at some point I have to learn to be nicer to myself.

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57 Christina January 25, 2012 at 10:55 am

I’m so glad Stephanie of Steph’s Bite by Bite retweeted this!

I so enjoyed reading this! At times I feel it is appropriate to pull out the scale to help “course correct” when continuosly making not so wise decisions. Helping you to catch yourself and start making better decisions in regards to food and activity before it gets too out of control.

But for most of the time I completely feel the same as you mentioned in this post.. What matters the most is how I feel not some silly number!

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58 Ari @ Ari's Menu January 25, 2012 at 11:24 am

Love, love, love!!! I will never forget the day my husband was so fed up with the way our scale messed with my brain, that he took out his hammer and smashed it before taking it out to the trash can. I also feel like as someone who does focus on numbers, the focus on miles and pace since I’ve started running have given me more peace of mind than I ever imagined!

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59 STUFT Mama January 25, 2012 at 11:37 am

Oh man, my scale broke awhile back and I haven’t fixed it for this very reason. I’m always hoping to see a lower number when it doesn’t really matter. What an inpsiring post Tina. :) So needed to read this today.

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60 Carol @ Lucky Zucca January 25, 2012 at 12:14 pm

LOVE this post Tina!! My scale has been broken for a few months now, and it is so freeing. Sometimes I catch myself wondering, but who CARES. As long as I look & feel good, that is all that matters. Thanks for that reminder :)

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61 Laura is Undeterrable January 25, 2012 at 12:14 pm

I recently decided to give up the scale. It felt GOOD. I was tired of the obsessive thoughts and the bargaining and the “maybe this scale is broken” on repeat in my head. I’m DONE. I’ll measure my fitness with how I perform, not by some stupid 3 digit number.

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62 Jessica S. January 25, 2012 at 12:32 pm

Tina,

This post couldn’t have come at a better time. I started Weight Watchers a few weeks ago, along with my boyfriend, and have been eating healthfully and exercising consistently. Despite losing 6 pounds in the first 2 weeks, I was so ticked off to have gained 1 pound this week. Even though I’ve been doing BodyPump, and it may be muscle weight, I still can’t believe how much power that number has over me. I have lost 3-4 pants sizes since August, why should I focus on the scale? I tried on a few pairs of shorts I haven’t worn in years because I gained weight, and they zipped up! Thank you for being so open and honest in your struggles. Hearing someone else echo my feelings helps more than you know. BTW – I recently finished a great book on binge eating – Food: The Good Girl’s Drug. It was life-changing!

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63 tinareale January 25, 2012 at 3:59 pm

Congrats on your progress!!! And while I do think the scale has its place in things like weight loss needs, I think feeling great and seeing your body change (like with clothes fitting better) matter and say WAY more! Good job to you!

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64 Paula @ lipstick and lunges January 25, 2012 at 12:41 pm

Throw that thing out!! I haven’t owned a scale in years and I don’t miss it one bit. I know my body well and can tell the way I feel, the way clothes fit and just looking in the mirror how I’m doing. I occasionally weigh myself at the gym, but only if I’m curious to see where I am, not as a point to measure myself by.
The number that I can get obsessed with is waist measurement. It drives me nuts that it is 1 thing in the morning and another at night. I only break out the tape to track goals now, not for frequent check ins.

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65 Jess January 25, 2012 at 1:02 pm

SHUT UP SCALE!! I am saying it with you, can you tell? ;-)

I totally agree – and this is something I’ve learned over time: some numbers are TOTAL motivators for me and I dig it. Other numbers do nothing but control me and I HATE feeling controlled by anything other than me. This is actually something I’ll be talking about during the fitblog chat I’m hosting in two weeks! I hope you’ll be there :)

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66 Bianca @ Confessions of a Chocoholic January 25, 2012 at 1:13 pm

Amen to that!

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67 Tina January 25, 2012 at 1:23 pm

I think I needed this post today Tina. Just like you said, we all have our days. Yesterday I found myself counting my calories….”just to see” how I’m doing. We all know that I was just going back to an old habit that I know didn’t work for me. I realized that I probably ate around 1980 calories. My weight is slowly climbing down and clothes are fitting better. This makes me realize that no matter how many calories a darn website tells me I should have, my body really knows what I need…and that is working for me!

Good for you for not letting the scale rule you!

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68 Amy Lauren January 25, 2012 at 1:25 pm

Sounds like you had a great run :) . 7 miles in under an hour is definitely an accomplishment to be proud of.

As far as the scale goes, I wish I could break up with it. I don’t think anyone is ever happy with the number- like you even if I’m the same weight, I’ll wish it was less. I went 3 weeks or so without weighing and then broke down. I weighed AFTER running 7.5 miles in like 63 minutes or so… and the number was up, so I beat myself up about it, totally forgetting about the accomplishment of running that far, that fast.

I’m honestly at the point where I’d just rather not know and be in the dark about it, there really is a lot more to life than the scale. It’s such a torture device.

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69 Janine @ThePurpleGiraffe January 25, 2012 at 1:26 pm

Great post!!!

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70 lindsay January 25, 2012 at 1:40 pm

numbers are worthless, GOd’s love and your family love are worth so much more. I agree! Thank you for this great reminder of where our confidence should come from friend.
<3

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71 Michelle @lipstickandlunges January 25, 2012 at 2:19 pm

Well said! I avoid the scale whenever possible but just the other day stepped on to try to validate my hard work. What a mistake! I tend to get obsessed over being at a certain number. But you’re completely right! I need to think about the numbers that really matter, like the number of reps I got out on the bench press this week :) Great post, Tina!
— Michelle

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72 Tessa @ Amazing Asset January 25, 2012 at 2:40 pm

Can I get an amen to this?! I just wrote a very similar-idea post to this on Monday :) Check it out if you would like Tina! http://amazingasset.com/2012/01/23/to-make-sure-i-still-can/
Thank you for continuing to inspire me each and everyday!

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73 Lisa January 25, 2012 at 2:43 pm

I so agree with you!!! I only weigh myself once a month because of that stupid scale does to my head. The last time I weighed myself right after the holidays and I had maintained. I did not gain through the holiday season. I should have been ecstatic but I was secretly disappointed that I hadn’t miraculous lost a few pounds. :P So stupid.

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74 Julie January 25, 2012 at 2:57 pm

Tina- thanks for posting this! :) I’ve been needing to hear the same exact thing, especially about the scale. It’s so easy to let my mind win the war on how I feel about myself, regardless of the facts. This morning I was thinking about how I am made in God’s image! What an amazing thing and how could we ever feel like we are not enough! We are wonderfully and beautifully made :)

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75 Stacy @ Stacy Eats January 25, 2012 at 4:10 pm

Agreed! If I’m going to weigh myself it is ONLY in the morning before I’ve had anything to eat or drink, otherwise it’s never a fun number.

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76 Diana January 25, 2012 at 4:13 pm

AWESOME RUN!! Our bodies are so strong, checking that number on the scale doesn’t even make sense anymore, does it??

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77 Jeannie January 25, 2012 at 4:23 pm

I know what you mean. I try not to rely on the number either but every once in a while I want a peak hoping it’s a smidgen lower.

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78 Lindsay @ FuelMyFamily January 25, 2012 at 4:31 pm

the scale is a dangerous thing. I agree with everything you say but I also find it hurtful in the opposite direction. If I do see a low number I think, oh good I can eat more dessert without guilt today. Such a bad way to think. My body usually stays right around the same number, but I feel and look so different depending on my exercising and eating that it shows how little the number really means.

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79 Leah @ Why Deprive? January 25, 2012 at 5:12 pm

I love this Tina. So much.
Oddly enough, I’m not too bothered by the scale. The logical part of my brain knows full well it doesn’t matter, and lately it seems to be the side that has the control. The numbers that do get me though are calories. I cant count calories. When I did I had myself down to less than 500 a day, and theres still a part of me that worries if I ever figured out how many I take in each day, I’d freak out. I couldnt even give you a general idea how many calories I consume, and that’s the way I want it. All I need to know is that I’m eating when I’m hungry, and not eating when I’m not hungry.

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80 Lauren @ Sassy Molassy January 25, 2012 at 5:15 pm

Loved this post, Tina! I’m going to link it from a post I just wrote this week about how yoga has made me appreciate my body. I’ve noticed several posts lately about people talking about their relationship with the scale and it’s good to read it from others and air our own frustrations and thoughts. I’m the same way – love the mileage and pace numbers, but don’t always like the scale numbers. That being said, my relationship with the scale has changed drastically over the last few years.

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81 Hilary January 25, 2012 at 5:30 pm

Yeah…the scale and I have never gotten along too well. It’s like a bad boyfriend that has too much control. I took a LONG break from it, but my clothes were telling me things weren’t good, and I thought the scale could help me be more accountable. Well, the only thing it has succeeded in doing is making me feel more miserable. Things are not working out, and the scale is a constant reminder, staring me in the face and telling me I’m a failure. I am so much more than what that number tells me, I just have to keep reminding myself of that.

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82 Anna Crouh January 25, 2012 at 8:25 pm

Yes yes yes!!! I threw my scale out about 2 years ago. About a month ago I went to the doctor, and when he weighed me I had gained 12 POUNDS!!!! I knew this wasn’t possible since my clothes still we’re fitting me that same. That # got to my head and I was extremely disillusioned for a few weeks….until…..I randomly was asked if I wanted to have a free fitness evaluation at my gym. I agreed, not knowing what it entailed. They weighed me…I still saw that same dissappointing # and then they took my body fat %, which to my surprise was EXACTLY THE SAME as it was before!!! That means I gained 12lbs of pure muscle in the past 6-9 months!!! At that moment I vowed to never dictate my worth by that stupid # the scale tells you. It doesn’t tell you how FIT you are, just how much all your organs, bones, muscle and yes, even fat, weigh all combined. It doesn’t really tell you much more than that!!! :)

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83 Lauren @ Oatmeal after Spinning January 25, 2012 at 9:00 pm

YOU GO GIRL. :)
I’m a numbers person. I like numbers, statistics, formulas… all that nerdy stuff. But, for a while, I became obsessed with numbers. Not so much the scale- but more the numbers on my Heart Rate Monitor- that calories burned, my heart rate, time exercised, etc… it was bad. I wouldn’t stop until I burned at least 1,000 calories, ever (even though I know it wasn’t completely accurate!). I had to quit wearing it cold turkey, and haven’t worn it since October. Amazingly, I don’t miss it at all!

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84 Amykinz @ Foodie 4 Healing January 25, 2012 at 9:41 pm

My thoughts exactly, Tina! I’m actually working on a post right now that I’m going to title, “Why I Don’t Count Calories” or anything else for that matter! Numbers mess with me & my head, too. I tend to focus on quantity instead of quality. On hitting the number instead of what my body is telling me. Overall, numbers tend to throw me into a major tailspin that takes me way too long to get back to where I was. Take a hike numbers! I’m with Tina! :)

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85 Lauren @ What Lauren Likes January 25, 2012 at 9:50 pm

So true!! Loved this :)

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86 natalie @ southern fit foodie January 25, 2012 at 10:35 pm

I kick my scale every time I step on it (maybe once a month or so). I used to weigh every day and I let those numbers OWN me. Now when I weigh, I just kick the scale (literally) and say “whatever, I know I’m strong and healthy” but it still bugs me a little bit. I’m thinking of throwing it completely away! :)

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87 Laura Agar Wilson January 26, 2012 at 7:47 am

Thanks for your lovely comment Tina, you are so right about the scale, I was happy to have ditched it but will probably have to use it to help me with my weight gain. I think when you are maintaining especially there are so many other better ways of keeping on track

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88 Nicole @ PancakesandPilates January 26, 2012 at 1:06 pm

Tina, Thank you so much for sharing! Your honesty about your struggles is impressive and inspiring. It’s so hard to break old, destructive habbits, isn’t it? I think you should throw it out. I never got stuck on the numbers, thankfully, but even still, I got rid of mine because it never lead to anyihtng good. Even if it said something I liked, wasn’t that still bad because I felt good and validated by the number? Yes! Keep up the excelent work on the blog and otherwise :)

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89 Annette@EnjoyYourHealthyLife January 26, 2012 at 1:44 pm

I 100% agree!! The scale no longer has the force over me–FINALLY. Those numbers mean NADA for someone who is fit, healthy, strong, sexy, and confident.

Besides, you have family, a great spouse/kids, and an awesome life<—no scale can tell you this! Great post!

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